1) "This too will pass, this feeling will not last."
Think of how temporary a feeling or situation is. It may feel intense and like it won't ever go away, but in reality, it always does. Things change rapidly. Acknowledge it, and remind yourself of it.
2) Perspective.
There is always more than one way to look at a situation. There is no right or wrong way to look at it, but remember that there is always an up side to every down side, and the other way around. Try to put yourself in someone elses shoes, and look at the situation differently. There's more than one solution or coping mechanism, and the best thing is to find the one that works, for you.
3) Love.
When you open your eyes to how many people love you, it can change your entire world. Just be willing to understand what people are tellinng you. And more importantly, let yourself be understood.
4) Being open.
Don't be close minded. Be open to suggestions and criticism and feedback. If the feedback or criticism is negative, think about it, still. If you know that you are okay with what was said and you don't want or need to change it, then simply put it on the bookshelf in your brain. It's okay to feel upset or shaken by it, but don't let it control your thoughts. You are who you are, only change what you deem is neccassary to better yourself.
5) Forgiveness.
People will hurt you. People will dislike you. That's just life. But, if we hold a grudge for every mean word or every snicker, we won't get very far. Forgive the people that do wrong by you, and you will have a very heavy weight lifted from your shoulders. It is difficult to forgive others' mistakes,large ones at that, but it can be done.
6) Acceptance.
Accept who you are. Accept your ability to change and learn, and make mistakes. Be who you want to be, and be proud of that. Everyone has quirks, everyone has annoying habits, nobody is perfect.
7) Recognition of talent and capablities.
Everybody is capable of so many things, it would be impossible to list them all. Everyone is unique and talented in their own special way. We are all capable of love, of obtaining friends and of forgiveness. We have many talents, whether they be in atheltics or arts, academics or people skills. Each individual is different, and that is okay.
8) "I am human and I have the right to make mistakes."
It is most certainly within the boundaries of human nature, to make mistakes. Big mistakes, medium mistakes, little mistakes; spelling mistakes. We each have the right to make as many mistakes as we possibly can within our lifetime. It does not make you a bad person, it makes you human.
9) "I am loved and am able to love others."
You are loved, no matter how much you refuse to believe so. At least one person in this world, be it someone close to you, or someone you haven't even met yet, loves you unconditonally. Be patient and understanding, and you will run into this person or realize who this person is, eventually. And always remember, you can love as many people as your heart desires. The more the merrier, is so true.
10) Reframing negative thoughts and events into positive situations and circumstances.
The most difficult thing to learn, is to learn to take something absolutely negative and make it less severe. It hurts to put things into perspective but it helps. Sometimes it's all you need to do, is to stop and think "How could this be worse?" and then be thankful that it's not.
And as always, remember you are not perfect, nor should you feel like you need to be.
We are human, we are individuals, and we are unique.
Love yourself, be proud of yourself, and be happy with yourself.
You deserve it.